A friend pointed out to me that she chooses not to hold grudges. Asking her why, she said to me that it takes an inordinate amount of energy in doing so. This got me thinking about how we differ from our sibling-s when it comes to fluidity versus rigidity in patterns in thinking. And howContinue reading “When Hurt Becomes Certainty: Understanding Psychological Rigidity in Sibling Estrangement “
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When Rejection Doesn’t End With Your Sibling
Once we go through the experience of sibling estrangement, we are forever changed. It starts to affect us not only in how we see ourselves, but in our relationships with others as well. The feeling of rejection that we may have experienced from our sibling is a hurtful feeling that can carry into other relationships.Continue reading “When Rejection Doesn’t End With Your Sibling”
Emotional Capacity and Sibling Estrangement
One of the most freeing aspects that comes with our deliverance from sibling estrangement is when we start to recognize that our sibling can’t meet us at our level of depth, signaling their lack of emotional capacity. This particular deficit is an important factor to consider when it comes to the wedge that exists betweenContinue reading “Emotional Capacity and Sibling Estrangement”
How Ambiguity Affects Sibling Connections
All sorts of defense mechanisms arise when we speak of how our sibling relates to us in different social contexts with them. One that is seldom discussed, but tends to happen to some of us is what’s called ambiguity. As we’ll come to see, ambiguity can be a power play that our sibling may furtherContinue reading “How Ambiguity Affects Sibling Connections”
Understanding Sibling Estrangement: Ego Defense Mechanisms Explained
In our quest to understand the underpinnings of sibling estrangement, one particular perspective is almost universally experienced, and it’s that of our sibling’s ego defense mechanisms. These were initially described by Sigmund Freud, and later, his daughter Anna Freud expanded upon them. Many of us have been subjected to disproportionate reactions on our sibling’s part,Continue reading “Understanding Sibling Estrangement: Ego Defense Mechanisms Explained”
Stopping Intergenerational Estrangement: Key Strategies
Every now and then, the question arises within our online support group with just how we can stop intergenerational estrangement. This is a perplexing question for a number of us, as we are highly conscious of what the effects of estrangement are, and don’t want them to be perpetuated to the next generation. It’s concerningContinue reading “Stopping Intergenerational Estrangement: Key Strategies”
Sibling Estrangement 