This is a place where you’ll be able to read more about sibling estrangement, and its effects on us.
These short articles will serve in various ways to inform, empower, and break the stigma associated to the all too common experience of sibling estrangement.
Remember, you are not alone.
Facticity and Transcendence in a Sibling Relationship
In one of my recent online support groups, it was discussed that some members were experiencing a significant shift with regards to their perception of their sibling, and the role they play in their lives. I truly believe this is a process of grief, associated to Worden’s tasks of mourning ( as adapted in theContinue reading “Facticity and Transcendence in a Sibling Relationship”
Willful Blindspot
A while back, when my father was still living, it would happen that we would discuss my sister, and the impact she was having on me. In particular, her lack of ability in feeding the relationship with me. In essence, my father would put the emphasis on me for making the relationship better. When IContinue reading “Willful Blindspot”
Emotional Memory
When I meet with my clients, invariably, it happens that couples will disagree on the unfoldment of certain events. Both can have a perspective that is different in terms of how they personally see it. When this happens, I like to dig further into what I call an emotional memory. What is that exactly? ThatContinue reading “Emotional Memory”
Unexpressed Potential
A friend of mine recently asked me to preside over her wedding ceremony. I was very touched at this request, and plan to do my best in honouring her wishes and contributing to bringing this all together. This is in stark contrast to my sister that not only refused for me speak at the podiumContinue reading “Unexpressed Potential”
People Pleasing and Sibling Estrangement
We’re all a little bit guilty of this at one time or another in our lives. Choosing to take a step back and altruistically giving in to our sibling’s needs. After all, it’s normal to give a little to get a little, right? The other person will surely give in, and look to satisfy ourContinue reading “People Pleasing and Sibling Estrangement”
How to Mourn a Sibling Relationship
A short while ago, we did a video podcast on the tasks of mourning with regards to sibling estrangement. It continues to be one of the most important videos I produced, due to the fact that there’s so little out there with regards to mourning the loss of a sibling relationship. While we can lookContinue reading “How to Mourn a Sibling Relationship”
The Empowered Victim
As social media groups continue to grow, and as we continue to find the elect few that are part of our emerging community of sibling estrangement, I’m reminded at which point there still exist some traps and pitfalls towards our sense of general wellness and well-being. Here’s an illustration of this. A few years agoContinue reading “The Empowered Victim”
Estranged versus Estranger
Someone recently posted in one of the estrangement pages on facebook that the people estranged couldn’t possibly be in the same group as those doing the estranging. His argument was that if you were estranged, then there must be a reason for it, of which you are responsible. Such rigid, judgmental and dismissive thinking causedContinue reading “Estranged versus Estranger”
Euphoric Recall
This is a term that’s often used in substance abuse. It can have to do with the idea of recalling a great, positive feeling (ie, drug use), but seemingly forgetting the negative life consequences that come with it (ie, after using drugs). As with co-dependency, this term has evolved to include interpersonal dynamics. I alsoContinue reading “Euphoric Recall”
Conditional Belonging
A great deal of us have been accused at one time or another in our lives of not caring for another’s feelings or circumstances, be it as a child or an adult. We’re taught early on to be mindful of another person’s feelings. Especially that of our loved ones. And yet, in some cases, thisContinue reading “Conditional Belonging”
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