When I was a child, I was sent to a different school and where I didn’t know anybody. I was more of an introvert, and very much fed my imaginal world. It didn’t take long for me to develop what one would call an imaginary friend. She was an older teenage girl, who I wouldContinue reading “The Case for an Imaginary Friend”
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Your Future Self and Sibling Estrangement
One of the challenges we have to contend with in sibling relationships are the ups and downs we get with the reshaping of our life. Like a boat in rough waters, we strive to keep our course, and sometimes, a wave gets the best of us for a given time. One such wave can beContinue reading “Your Future Self and Sibling Estrangement”
Six types of Courage and Sibling Estrangement
Mapping the challenges that come with sibling estrangement can be a daunting task. We are invariably put in a position that causes us to reevaluate entire relationships, and assess what this has done to us, and how best we can cope and protect ourselves. One aspect that comes to mind is the courage and dignityContinue reading “Six types of Courage and Sibling Estrangement”
From Personalization to Prioritizing your Feelings
Note to readers: I first presented the concept of personalization in a previous article. This is a further expansion of how personalization can influence us in relationships. It’s no secret that we become the product of our environment. What people say or do to us influences our development. In fact, some of us internalize messagesContinue reading “From Personalization to Prioritizing your Feelings”
Indicators of success and Sibling Estrangement
Every now and then, the question invariably comes up. We become more knowledgeable about our sibling estrangement, recognize the traps and pitfalls, and start to ask “how do I know I’m getting better?” It’s a perfectly valid question. As with anything, there can never be a complete and final mastery on any given subject. SoContinue reading “Indicators of success and Sibling Estrangement”
Should I go No Contact with my sibling?
Maintaining or completely cutting off ties with a sibling is perhaps one of the biggest questions we can attempt to answer. It is not always an easy decision to make, and can sometimes feel counter-intuitive. Such a choice doesn’t come lightly, and can be due to a series of dehumanising and demeaning gestures that buildContinue reading “Should I go No Contact with my sibling?”
Weaponizing Forgiveness
It’s often mentioned that we should forgive. Everywhere we go, we are told to turn the other cheek. That is especially true in family settings. Certain family members may well feel awkward with the idea that their offspring don’t get along with each other. So much so that undue pressure can be put on usContinue reading “Weaponizing Forgiveness”
Personalization and Sibling Estrangement
Whenever we experience estrangement, we are often left shocked, dismayed, and can start to experience the sense of an unfinished story in our head. Because our heads don’t like unfinished stories, we can come up with all sorts of explanations to fill that void. The thing is, those reasons can end up playing against us.Continue reading “Personalization and Sibling Estrangement”
Anger as an End State to Sibling Estrangement?
I recently had an online exchange with a member from another estrangement group who reacted strongly to our estrangement videos. She accused me of an intent and conclusion that wasn’t true, despite the clarification of my thoughts on the matter. Nevertheless, there was no changing her mind. She was absolutely convinced that anger was justified,Continue reading “Anger as an End State to Sibling Estrangement?”
Bad Chemistry and Sibling Estrangement
It’s happened to us often enough that we’ve seen conversation start to go downhill relatively quickly with our sibling-s. What can start off as being a neutral conversation can quickly fall into invasive, demeaning, and provoking questions that can bring up our defenses, and cause us to react in ways that are out of characterContinue reading “Bad Chemistry and Sibling Estrangement”
Sibling Estrangement 