Willful Blindspot

A while back, when my father was still living, it would happen that we would discuss my sister, and the impact she was having on me. In particular, her lack of ability in feeding the relationship with me. In essence, my father would put the emphasis on me for making the relationship better. When IContinue reading “Willful Blindspot”

People Pleasing and Sibling Estrangement

We’re all a little bit guilty of this at one time or another in our lives. Choosing to take a step back and altruistically giving in to our sibling’s needs. After all, it’s normal to give a little to get a little, right? The other person will surely give in, and look to satisfy ourContinue reading “People Pleasing and Sibling Estrangement”

How to Mourn a Sibling Relationship

A short while ago, we did a video podcast on the tasks of mourning with regards to sibling estrangement. It continues to be one of the most important videos I produced, due to the fact that there’s so little out there with regards to mourning the loss of a sibling relationship. While we can lookContinue reading “How to Mourn a Sibling Relationship”

Estranged versus Estranger

Someone recently posted in one of the estrangement pages on facebook that the people estranged couldn’t possibly be in the same group as those doing the estranging. His argument was that if you were estranged, then there must be a reason for it, of which you are responsible. Such rigid, judgmental and dismissive thinking causedContinue reading “Estranged versus Estranger”

Euphoric Recall

This is a term that’s often used in substance abuse. It can have to do with the idea of recalling a great, positive feeling (ie, drug use), but seemingly forgetting the negative life consequences that come with it (ie, after using drugs). As with co-dependency, this term has evolved to include interpersonal dynamics. I alsoContinue reading “Euphoric Recall”